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How to ‘Christmas-proof’ your relationship – little things all couples should be doing

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January is the busiest time of the year for divorce and a huge number of people make the heartbreaking decision to end their relationships after the Christmas celebrations

Christmas can be very romantic, and there’s something very special about decorating the tree, ice skating and dancing around to festive tunes with the person you love.

But all that extra time together can sometimes put stain on relationships and unfortunately it often means that cracks start to appear.

Every year there is a huge spike in the number of divorces as people make the heartbreaking decision to part ways just weeks or even days after pulling their crackers.

Sara Davision, a relationship expert known as The Divorce Coach, believes there are certain things all couples need to do to ‘Christmas-proof’ their relationship.

Speaking to Mirror Online, Sara said: “Christmas can be the inevitable melting pot for the increase in tensions and the magnifier of disputes in the family home.

“It’s a sad fact that when we do spend quality time with our partners it puts pressure on any cracks in the relationship.

“If the foundations are already rocky then holidays have a way of holding a mirror up to the relationship and it could well mean make or break time.

“January is well established as the landmark month for divorce filings to spike, with the first full working day now coined as ‘Divorce Day’ because family law firms receive so many enquiries.

“Over the holiday we are no longer distracted by the usual routine of work and school runs so we have more time to focus on the relationship and how it is going.

This means more scrutiny as couples spend more time together. Another issue that causes stress is spending time with extended family. The old jokes about the in laws can become all too true after a few drinks and living under one roof all together.

“Tensions can mount if you don’t get along well or have to walk on egg shells around each other’s families.

“Couples often have different expectations of the Christmas holidays too. If one sees it as a chance to put their feet up as they are not at work and the other is left to entertain the kids or cook for everyone it can cause arguments.

“On top of all that it’s the season for parties and drinking and if your relationship is already on the rocks it can sadly be a trigger for infidelity.

All these festive period pressures can reach a crescendo, what I call a switch flicking moment, when something tips the balance and you decide you just can’t do this anymore.”

Sara has shared her seven tips on how to ‘Christmas-proof’ your relationship.

  1. Don’t let problems fester – If there are any issues raise them with your partner and work together to sort them out before any irreparable damage is done.
  2. Set aside some time to discuss what you want from the holidays and how you see it working – Make a plan that you both agree to and are happy with.
  3. Agree a financial budget for the Christmas period in advance and stick to it .
  4. Make a conscious decision to stay calm and to keep spirits up over Christmas – Don’t be the person who brings the mood down.
  5. Do your best to get along with the in laws and extended family – Agree to keep visits to a minimum if you know they always cause unnecessary stress and be sure to calve out some ‘time out’ for yourself
  6. Keep the love alive – Be affectionate and playful with your partner. Arrange quality alone time over the holidays where you spend time together doing the things you love.
  7. Don’t take things too seriously – Keep perspective on the magnitude and significance of things that might trigger an argument. Remember you can diffuse an argument before it happens by choosing to react with love. For example giving them a hug or telling them you love them can diffuse the tension in a heartbeat if you do it sincerely.

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Nigerian Senate Shuts Down Over Coronavirus Pandemic

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Nigeria Senate on Tuesday adjourned sitting for two weeks over the ravaging coronavirus pandemic.

The decision which was announced by the Senate President, Dr Ahmad Ibrahim Lawan came after a two-hour close door session.

They are to resume on 7th of April, 2020.

They also asked the Federal Government to devote funds specifically to fight the scourge, adding that states across the Federation should also be assisted with funds.

Lawan enjoined Senators to watch out for any emergency, while he asked the Senate Committee on Health and Communicable Disease to move into action to ensure proper coordination of activities.

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See The Expensive Car Naira Marley Bought Zlatan Ibile’s Girlfriend As Birthday Gift

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Singer Naira Marley has showed love to Zlatan Ibile’s girlfriend, Shigh Lofe by gifting her a new Range Rover Evogue as birthday gift today. He took to his Instagram page to share the news and wrote:

“@shigh_lofe happy birthday again.. I bought u this small car, well u said u want evoque abi? u deserve it sha fvcking hardworking. I’m gonna give u ten sexy b!tches to yourself today” See photos below:

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Man And Lady Die After Hard Sex In Port Harcourt

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An unidentified woman and her lover are now feared dead after a ”hard sex” at a house in Port Harcourt, the Rivers State capital.

The lady was found lifeless while her male partner was found unconscious with his manhood erect in a Storeyed building at Elechi-Wobo street Mile 3 Diobu, Port Harcourt.

Eyewitnesses said neighbours broke into the Self-contained apartment and found the two victims naked.

“The deceased man was settled by his oga last month (February) after serving him at Ikoku and has started marriage plans with the girl.

“There were also sex-enhancing drugs by the table near the mattress,” the eyewitness said.

The yet to be identified man later died Thursday in the hospital, 3 days after the incident.

Youth President of Rumuelechi, Godstime Ihunwo confirmed the incident and said it has been reported to the police.

The Rivers State Police Command has been contacted and are yet to react to the incident.

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